How to dress your body with confidence

A woman’s guide to dressing with confidence for any age, body type, or style.

5 minute read | By Maddison McKinley

This article is apart of a 4-part Clothing-Confidence series focused on creating and living and Clothing-Confident life.

By the end of this article, the following questions will be answered:

• How to dress with confidence?

• How do I learn what Cuts, Colors, and Cloths look great on my body?

• Which elements should I specifically pay attention to while looking for clothing to ensure it’s right for me?

How to Dress with Confidence

You’ve likely heard, or been told, that there are hard and fast rules for how to dress.

Maybe you’ve taken a “personal style quiz” that advised on which cuts to wear for your particular body type, or which colors to pair against your skin tone.

Or perhaps you’ve been told to “just wear what you love and it’ll all work out”.

A middle ground exists at the intersection of these statements where the dresser is empowered to create her own style.

Dressing With Confidence Comes From the Inside

The first step towards Clothing-Confidence is to recognize that you can do this!

Trust that you will soon dress in a way you love because Clothing-Confidence already lives inside you. This process is about giving your self-expression a voice.

Say aloud “I can do this!”.

This is an introspective process. Dressing with confidence must come from the inside to be sustainable.

To use the “teach a man to fish” proverb: “Give a woman style and she’ll have it for a few days. Teach a woman style and she’ll love & cherish it for a lifetime.”

Get excited to own and hone your personal style!

The 4C’s: Cut, Color, Cloth, and Comfort

The second step to dressing with confidence is to define your unique 4C’s:

• Cut

• Color

• Cloth

• Comfort

The 4C’s are fundamental building blocks to personal style and they can be as flexible as you want them to be. They are yours to own and refine.

Dressing yourself in a way you love becomes easier using the 4C’s because you’ll know exactly what to look for while you’re getting dressed in the morning. Never underestimate the power of a mental checklist!

Let’s define each of the 4C’s.

Cut

Dressing your body in a way you love requires that you know how to dress your body.

Find the clothing shapes that work for you by visiting the Daily Inspirato Figure Navigator.

Color

Take notice of the colors that make your skin POP.

Do deep, rich colors look good on your skin tone, or bright pastels?

Some women find it helpful to determine their skin type because there are distinct color palettes for each type.

Here’s a mini test that will help you find out if you’re skin is warm, cool, or neutral toned (note: it’s best to conduct these observations in the natural light):

Cloth

Which fabrics make you feel like you’re bringing out your best features, and are comfortable to wear?

Give attention to how a piece of clothing’s material feels on your body.

Sometimes we treat the top half of our body differently than the bottom half.

For example, apple-shaped bodies may have to stay away from chunky fabrics in the lower half of their body while wearing it on the top half is no problem.

Also consider which fabrics will last the best for the months to come. Here are some tips:

• Consider purchasing a de-piller to maintain the fabric’s integrity. Explore best clothing fuzz remover I’ve come across >

• Hanging your clothing to dry after a machine wash can increase the lifespan of your clothing. Read more >
  

Comfort

Nothing matters if the outfit is cutting into our gut while sitting, am-I-right?

Ensuring that all of your pieces are comfortable is a necessity.

Be sure to try on each piece for at least 3 minutes before committing to purchasing, or wearing them.

Try sitting, squatting, lifting your arms above your head–anything you can do to test if the piece will work for your environment.

Really look at yourself in the mirror

Now that you have the 4C’s as a resource, it’s time to take a look at yourself and your closet through a whole new lens.

I suggest that if you don’t have a full length mirror, to buy one. Wayfair Full Length Rectangular Mirror >

I say this because many of the women I have spoken with have mentioned a similar phenomena I’ve coined Mind, Mirror, Reality.

Mind, Mirror, Reality is defined as the inability to see what your look actually looks like until reality hits you with a picture, or a realization that the look didn’t suit you well.

This happens to all of us, all of the time. However, the purpose of the 4C’s is to minimize this from happening.

The more in tune you are with your body, the more likely your reality is going to feel fantastic.

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How to develop a personal style without a personal stylist

A woman’s guide to developing a personal clothing style that makes her feel and look good everyday.

2 minute read | By Maddison McKinley

This article is designed to answer the following questions:

• What is personal style?

• What do I need to develop a personal style?

• How can I develop a personal style of my own?

You already have it

With the rise of style-in-a-box companies like LeTote and Stitch Fix, it’s become increasingly clear that women want style but don’t have the time or know-how to get it. Let’s demystify personal style and develop one for yourself.

Personal style is most critical element to developing clothing-confidence

Daily Inspirato research tells us that personal style is the #1 element that impacts a woman’s confidence in clothing. The Daily Inspirato research spent a substantial amount of time investigating personal style by interviewing women with, and without personal style.

Personal style defined

Personal style is not being “trendy”. Erase the belief that you have to adhere to “trends” in order to develop personal style. You can feel relevant while choosing pieces that seamlessly float from season to season.

Personal style is defined as the ability to dress her body in a way she loves. She is not afraid to express herself through clothing and she cares about how her outward appearance is conveyed to the world.

The 3 elements of personal style

The Daily Inspirato personal style research revealed differences between women with, and without, personal style. The main ingredients to developing personal style are a mix of calculation and emotion: 1) knowing how to dress her body, 2) resiliency, and 3) vulnerability.

• The 4C’s, or the “dress code”: An understanding of what color, cut, cloth, and comfort looks best on you. This is the formula behind finding pieces that will work for your body type and style.

• Resiliency: The ability to get back on your feet after a wardrobe misstep, or perhaps even a rude comment. Women with personal style have made mistakes, but they have gotten “back on the horse” and continued on with finding looks that work for them.

• Vulnerability: There is an emotional element to clothing. You are saying “this is how I want to look”, and guess what? Not all of us are destined, or designed, to wear the same clothing. We are individuals. Women with personal style are able to recognize the way they dress might be different from other women and they’re okay with that. In fact, they embrace it.

So what next?

Women with personal style know how to dress their bodies in a way they love, understand that mistakes happen, and enjoy developing a look of their own. Once you become familiar with these first few steps, you can begin taking note of styles you like and want to try.

Finding inspiration

Personal style is less about being known for that one “thing” (for example, being known as always wearing a neck scarf), and instead, having a living, breathing aesthetic that feels like you. It’s unique.

Researching other people’s style may be helpful in figuring out what you yourself like. Document what you see around you and take note of the styles you do, and do not like.

Dressing for work, for life

For some women, the separate their work and "fun” wardrobes, while others have more of a blend. Depending on your occupation, it may be true that what you wear to work doesn’t comfortably transition to your life outside.

While we each have varying occupations that require us to dress a certain way, it’s important to remember that you have absolute control over what your wardrobe looks like in both cases, it’s just a matter of meeting the work-dress code and finding what you like to wear outside of work.

If the two happen to blend, that’s all the better.

Does it cost a lot to create a personal style?

NO. While many speak of the benefit to buying quality, investment pieces–I say work with what you have. There are ways to shop smarter, not harder, so be sure to read this article about documenting the items you need prior to shopping for them.

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How to love your closet by having less

A woman’s guide to thoughtfully curating her closet so that she loves and wears the majority of her pieces.

5 minute read | By Maddison McKinley

This article is designed to answer the following questions:

• How do I create a closet that’s filled with clothing I love?

• How do I maintain a great closet?

• How do I purge my closet?

So you want a new wardrobe?

If you're like most women you have a lot of clothing, but none of it is working together like you want it to.

If you’re also like most women, you only use 20% of your closet regularly.

So get rid of the 80% and we’re good, right? Well you could–but who’s to say you’ll get rid of the right clothing?

How to get rid of clothing you’re not wearing, or don’t like to wear

In order to break the cycle of adding hangers to a closet that isn’t working, stop buying. Force yourself to work within your current closet.

Doing this will allow you to pinpoint the clothing you actually wear, while trying out new combinations within your current closet.

This shopping hiatus will make you better informed the next time you add a piece of clothing to your wardrobe.

The 4th article in this series will walk through strategies to keep in mind when you’re shopping for new pieces so that you can fill your closet with items you love to wear, and make you feel good!

The Refined Closet Cycle

Below is the cycle that women who love their closets experience each day.

Some of these women also perform regular “purges” (as they say). If you don’t wear more than 50% of your closet, start with a purge.

After doing so, maintaining your happy closet through the process illustrated below is simple.

[Refined Closet Cycle] Consistently Curate

This is all a process in refinement. Once you’ve gotten rid of the sections of your closet you don’t wear, it’s time to do some fine-tuning by keeping yourself honest.

Consistently curate

Sometimes we buy things and wish that they looked a certain way on us so badly that we actually imagine it. I call this theory “mind, mirror, reality”, meaning my mind is seeing one thing, the mirror is telling a different story, and reality is the most truthful of all three.

As soon as your mind or reality tells you something isn’t serving you any longer, donate or consign it. This is the golden rule for knowing when to get rid of items.

Now that you’ve refined your closet to the pieces you most consistently wear, get rid of the purge mentality, and go with the consistently curating mentality.

[Refined Closet Cycle] Organize

Closets that are cluttered, messy, or packed-to-the-max make picking out a look nearly impossible. Closets are like creative spaces, and like most creative spaces, they need to breed creativity rather than stifle it. Clutter stifles creativity.

Try organizing your closet by type of clothing (pants, skirts, etc.) and then within each category, organize by color. While this process takes thought and a little bit of time, you won’t believe how much easier it is to pick out an outfit.

Organizational pro-tip: Make sure that every time you do laundry you place the clothing back on hangers/in drawers immediately.

[Refined Closet Cycle] Time

It’s the most precious resource of all, and improving your wardrobe demands some of it. But before you stop reading because you know there’s no way in HELL you’re giving up your time, I think dedicating some time to your closet might not be as difficult as you’d think.

Many women wake up in the morning and grab the first few things they see (particularly the moms out there–no time!), but, I think it’s worth trying to give your looks some thought:

• The night before

• The weekend before a week

If you wear 50% or less of your current wardrobe, I recommend that you purge the items you don’t wear anymore. After this initial exercise, you should have gotten rid of AT LEAST 30% of your closet.

This might be the most difficult part of the process, but your style and closet with thank you.

Turn the hangers

If you’re feeling stuck on what to get rid of, give the “turn the hanger around” concept a try. If you haven’t heard of this, it’s the idea that you turn all of your hangers around so that you can keep track of which pieces you actually wear after a given period of time (~30 days).

Expel the unmentionables

You have clothing that is in your closet right now that you’re a) not wearing and that you b) should purge immediately. I am going to break this clothing out into different categories I’ve heard most frequently.

Load it up!

Take a sturdy bag and load it up with all of the clothing that fits into any of the above categories.

Place the bag somewhere for a month (your car, hallway, garage).

After 30 days, donate or consign the bag of clothing. If you can go a month without it, you don’t need it.

Scarcity mentality

If you have a scarcity mentality, keep in mind that you are improving your closet by getting rid of this clothing.

Also know that you’re not doing yourself any favors by keeping aspirational pieces in your closet because it’s psychologically damaging (and you know it).

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How to buy clothes you love

A woman’s guide to effectively adding pieces she loves to her closet.

4 minute read | By Maddison McKinley

This article is designed to answer the following questions:

• How do I shop and buy clothes I actually want?

• How do I buy clothing that I won’t want to return?

The Mindful Shopping Cycle

Now that you have a refined closet, keep in mind that each additional hanger you add is precious! It’s important to maintain the integrity of your closet so that it’s filled with items you love.

This is precisely why shopping is so critical to keeping a Refined Closet.

Mindful Shopping is a cycle that is meant to help you while you’re shopping so that you buy the pieces you love.

[Mindful Shopping Cycle] Have a Plan

By this point, you should have a closet filled with items that you love. Now it’s time to create a list of items you need in order to have a well-rounded wardrobe. I recommend you keep a running list of wardrobe needs on your phone so that the list is always accessible (I use Simplenote).

See example shopping plan.

[Mindful Shopping Cycle] Spend Time in Clothing

Spend at least 3 minutes in the clothing before committing.

If you’re like most women I have spoken with, you don’t try on the clothing before you buy it.

You also likely miss the return time-slot on when you can take back the clothing. So then you’re stuck with it.

To avoid all that mess, focus on looking at yourself in the mirror while trying on.

If you don’t love the look, DO NOT BUY IT. I repeat, do not buy it. This goes for the bargain hunter out there that also just want to score a good deal.

Other helpful shopping tips to keep in mind

Try on, for goodness sakes

It turns out there’s a 50% chance that if you’re reading this, you don’t try on clothing before you buy it. #shocking

This is even more shocking considering that the majority of women I’ve spoken with say that their biggest clothing regrets originate from the clothing they didn’t try on and forgot to return. Now hangs in their closets with the tags still dangling.

How to shop for clothing on a budget

I have heard women repeatedly say “if I had 1 million dollars, I could re-do my wardrobe exactly how I want”.

While this may make shopping easier because price wouldn't be a concern, I have a more practical ideal for the cash-strapped.

There is an app available called Digit and it has smart algorithms that pull money from your bank account and save for you.

It also allows you to set up different savings account buckets with different goals.

So, once you begin to drill into the items you wish to buy, Digit will make it easy for you to save for each item over time.

Sure, 1 million dollars sounds great but this way you know that what you’re buying is going to be a thoughtful addition to your closet.

Below is an example stable shopping guide.

If you are going to purchase staples, find the ones that work for your job + personal style. I always hear people say “invest” when it comes to these staples, but honestly, Target has a lot of these options for fairly good prices. You don’t need to break the bank to improve your closet.

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How to identify the palettes that look best on your skin

A woman’s resource to understanding what palettes will look best on her skin tone.

This resource is designed to answer the following questions:

• Do cool, warm, or neutral tones look best on me?

• What colors work best for my skin?

Introduction to Color

Look at yourself. You come with beautiful coloring. Your eyes, your hair, and your skin tone are each unique to you. Finding the colors that complement your particular coloring will positively impact your confidence. You can go from looking ill to illuminated with a simple swap of color tone—even within the same “color.” Know this: all greens are not made equally.  

Look in your closet. Is there a certain color you tend to gravitate to most because you like the way it makes you look (not because someone told you it was your color, but that you like the way it brings out your eyes)? It could be because subconsciously you know they work with your coloring best. The take-away here is to be conscious of your colors because they do make a difference. 

Color is challenging because it’s emotional. Sometimes we love a certain color because it makes us happy, or we think it’s beautiful, but unfortunately, that particular shade may not work for us best. Let’s find the colors that compliment your features and reflect your personality and style preference. It’s possible, and we’re going to do it together!

The colors you choose to surround your face are most important because out of all your features, your face is where people will be paying the most attention. It’s also the place where you have the opportunity to enhance your hair and eyes most. 

More often than not, if we can find the colors that harmonize with your skin tone, those colors will also complement your hair and eyes well, too. Our skin tones work with our natural hair tones. Therefore, if your hair is far from your natural hair color, you’ll want to pay closer attention to garment color to make sure it’s working for both your skin tone and hair color. 

Cool, warm, and neutral tones

While there are many different skin tones in this world, they generally boil down to three tonal categories:

1. Cool tones

2. Warm tones

3. Neutral tones

Each of these tones has a complementing color palette that works best. To find out which tone you are, let’s start with a couple of simple questions.

Note: it’s best to conduct these observations in the natural light!

Does silver, gold, or both look good on your skin? Which pieces in your jewelry box do you reach for first?

• Silver = cool tone

• Gold = warm tone

• Both = neutral tone

Do the veins inside your wrists look blue or green?

• Blue = cool tone

• Green = warm tone

• Can’t tell = neutral tone

Finding The Right Color For Your Skin/Hair Tones

Typically, jewel tones will work best on cool-toned skin while earth tones highlight warm-toned skin well. 

If you’re a neutral tone, then you’re in luck! Practically every color will look good on you. This doesn’t mean you can fall asleep at the wheel, though. Pay attention to the way colors compliment your skin tone as you may find that certain color groupings do you more favors than others.

For example, I play with both cool and warm tones, but have found that very pale peachy/beige-y/sandy/white colors make me look like the grim reaper. Even when my skin has warmer tones (summer tan), they remove all color from my skin and pay me no favors. I do NOT support those colors in my wardrobe. I keep this knowledge on hand while shopping, and in fact, avoid entire sections where that shade is present which actually ends up saving me a lot of time!

Take note of the different kinds of colors in each tonal category below. Now, think about your favorite color or piece in your wardrobe, are you seeing it generally represented here and under the tone you identified with?

Warm & Earth Tones

A combination of rich oranges, reds, yellows, and greens.

Cool & Jewel Tones

A mix of refreshing blues, blue-greens, and purples.

Mixing Core and Accent Colors

TIP: While you will have a plethora of colors to choose from, remember that we’re trying to create a cohesive wardrobe; one where pieces work with one another. This is why some choose to structure their wardrobes with “core” vs. “accents” colors along the 80/20 lines (80% core, 20% accents). This gives you the freedom and range to pair many looks together with your clothing, while also adding in the occasional accent to vary things up. 

Example Combinations of Core and Accent Colors for Warm and Cool Tones

Restate Your Color Preferences

I recommend repeating your Color preferences to commit them to memory. 

“I have [warm, cool, neutral] skin tones so the following color types work best for me …”

• [Example: bright, jewel-toned blue]

• Your color preference:  ________________

• Your color preference:  ________________

• Your color preference:  ________________

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In-depth guide to finding your skin tone and the colors that work for you. Read more >

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Experts Answer Your Bra, Underwear, Shapewear, and Lingerie Questions

Article by Maddison McKinley, in collaboration with Sasha Vurnakes and Becca Michelet. The products featured in this article were sourced independently and chosen for the benefit of the reader. Daily Inspirato doesn’t financially benefit if you buy any of these products.

Bras, Underwear, Shapewear & lingerie Oh My!

You’ve heard that “it takes a village to raise a child.” Well, it can also take a “village” of undergarments to support a strong look.

Intimates are like the silent partner in a business deal, the unseen heroes eradicating crime from your neighborhood. You know they’re doing their best work when they go undetected.

Bras

And though you may say “no thanks” to a base layer of Spandex, we do all need a good-fitting bra. The right bra can shift your self-esteem for the better, just as an ill-fitting one (Hello, UNDERWEAR IN MY ARMPIT) can make you hate the world. 

Underwear

When it comes to underwear, we have a whole range of options. Maybe you go commando. Maybe you’re walking around with panty lines you didn’t even know were on full display. 

Shapewear

Take shapewear. There isn’t a celebrity on the red carpet (I don’t care if they’re in their 20s and have a standing appointment with Gunnar Peterson), who isn’t wearing some kind of shapewear. So please, forget the idea that shapewear means admitting defeat. Kim Kardashian created SKIMS because she saw a need in the marketplace! 

Lingerie

Lingerie does not have to be for the bedroom, only. The “innerwear as outerwear” trend is here to stay because it’s a timeless look (see: The French). Purposefully showing off some lace can feel feminine and empowering. With that being said, there’s a reason Rihanna’s lingerie brand, Savage X Fenty, is now valued at 1 billion dollars: women are embracing lingerie in the bedroom, with, or without, a partner.

We’re going to talk about undergarments and the right kind for each situation and person. Below, the experts share their wisdom, and I offer a pearl or two when I’m able! 

Meet the Experts

Your Intimates Starter Kit

Sometimes, it’s hard to even know where to begin. That’s why Sasha and Becca put together an easy, go-to starter list for your intimates needs! We’ve done the research, all you need to do is pick your size and color :)

Bra Starter Kit

(1) Strapless, (2) Lacey, (3) Wireless, and (4) Pushup

Underwear Starter Kit

(1) Thongs, (2) Bikinis, (3) High-Waisted, (4) Crotchless, (5) Vibrating, (6) No-Show, (7) Period/Moisture Wicking

Shapewear Starter Kit

(1) Thigh Savers, (2) One-Piece SPANX, (3) Compression Tank, and (4) Bustier

Lingerie Starter Kit

(1) Bodysuit/Teddy, (2) Corset, (3) Babydoll, (4) Thigh-Highs, and (5) Silk Robe

TOPIC: BRAS

What are bras doing for me? 

A bra's functional purpose is to provide support, structure and protection for the wearer’s bust, shoulder and back.

—Sasha Vurnakes

It also provides a nicer silhouette and fit for your clothes!

—Becca Michelet

How do I figure out my bra size at home?

How should a bra fit?

Bra sizes are based on your band size (the number) and your cup size (the letter). These measurements are usually determined by using a tape measure around your rib cage and bust. The number/letter is your bra size. Finding the right bra size is crucial for the right support and for a smooth comfortable fit.

—Sasha Vurnakes

Bras should fit snug like a hug around your ribcage. Because a bra’s main purpose is to support, it is imperative your band fits snug and parallel to the ground and the straps are not overtightened. You always want to start your bra on the loosest hook that way with more wear and stretch you can tighten up your bra over time. Typically if you have to start your bra on the tightest hook you need to try the smaller band size. Your band does about 80% of your bust support!

—Becca Michelet

How do bra extenders work?

Extenders are fabulous! Good quality bras are an investment and an extender helps to ensure a proper fit if your weight fluctuates maintaining your investment. They’re also helpful if you are inbetween sizes. 

—Sasha Vurnakes

Or going through pregnancy and nursing!

—Maddison McKinley

These are great if you are in between band sizes. Many women will fluctuate several times throughout their life and something as simple as an extender can help to make your bra a little more comfortable I tend to be in between a 34-36 band so I will pop on an extender on my 34s and after about a month of wear my bra will have just enough stretch to be able to take that extender off.

—Becca Michelet

What is the best place to buy bras online?

For my larger-busted clients, I suggest Lane Bryant or Torrid as their sizing is more inclusive. Regardless of the site, my professional advice would be to read reviews. Before purchasing, check to see if the piece you’re interested in runs true to size and has reviews for being durable.

—Sasha Vurnakes

Go to www.thebragenie.com! We offer an extensive size range larger than department stores and would be happy to assist over the phone with any questions regarding styles. Oh, and we ship for free if your order is over $50! Her Room is an AMAZING size with excellent customer reviews and testimonials. HOWEVER, lingerie is one of the most frequent items for return as all bras fit differently.

—Becca Michelet

TOPIC: UNDERWEAR

Should I choose different underwear depending on what I’m wearing (e.g. panty lines)?

When choosing the style of underwear you should consider what you’re wearing, how long you’ll be wearing [it] and ultimately, your personal style. EveryBODY is different and tastes vary—some prefer a thong and some favor the additional coverage a hipster can offer. Specialty panties (such as lace, crotchless, or vibrating) are only made for special occasions. For everyday wear, you’ll want to choose a fabric that breathes well such as cotton or bamboo. Personally, my favorite is a high-waisted solid black cheeky cut. In my opinion, it offers an equal mixture of sultry style and practical functionality.

—Sasha Vurnakes

You should also pick out your panty style depending on the type of garment you are wearing, not the other way around. Seamless/no-show panties are a no-brainer as these could go under anything, but just like bras, it is about finding the right cut and style for your body type.

—Becca Michelet

TOPIC: SHAPEWEAR

What is shapewear?

Shapewear acts as the foundational undergarments that provide structure or reshape your figure. Shapewear comes in a variety of styles—from high-waisted bikini briefs to cami-style tops.

—Sasha Vurnakes

Not all shapewear is going to tuck and slim. Shapewear styles vary by the style and level of support. A light shaper may provide just enough to smooth any unsightly lumps or bumps, whereas firm control will smooth, shape, and suck in to provide extra support!

—Becca Michelet

How does shapewear work and how does it help?

Successful shapewear is made from compression material that holds and offers additional support to areas such as the thighs or lower stomach region. Shapewear or tight compression-based undergarments have many uses such as accentuating curves, adding smoothness to an outfit, or even helping with back pain.

—Sasha Vurnakes

How to choose shapewear, and when to use it?

Adding any article of clothing to your body is always up to your discretion, but typically, folks wear shapewear when they’re dressing more formally. 

—Sasha Vurnakes 

It is a personal preference. Many women wear light to moderate shapewear every day to work. Shapewear makes your clothing lay more smoothly and can hide panty lines and double as a slip under sheer dresses. The most common occasion someone will wear shapewear is when [they] are dressing up for an important event, such as a board meeting, wedding, or prom!

—Becca Michelet 

Have you ever experienced summer (erm) chafing? Try these thigh savers to protect your skin when the weather gets warm.

—Maddison McKinley

How should shapewear fit?

Shapewear should be snug but [don’t] size down too eagerly. Otherwise, you’ll experience discomfort during extended wear.

—Sasha Vurnakes

It all depends on the type of shapewear. An undergarment like a waist trainer is meant to shape and train your waist, but a lot of women will not find this comfortable for a long workday of wear because of the boning. However, a moderate shaper piece could be snug and still comfortable all day. The main thing is to try on many styles to see what fits your body the best and won’t roll throughout the day.

—Becca Michelet

TOPIC: LINGERIE

Can I wear lingerie … visibly?

ANSWER YES! If you find lingerie pieces that properly fit you then you will find endless options for incorporating your favorite lingerie essentials into your everyday OOTD. You can wear lingerie underneath your outerwear for an additional dash of confidence or you can wear it as a visible part of your outfit. Before we talk about how you can embrace a lingerie-inspired outfit, let’s go back to talking about that important word: confidence. Often the customers I meet through my lingerie boutique or intimate boudoir portrait studio have minimal experience with lingerie ... As a professional, I love to expertly fit a customer in a piece that I know will showcase their favorite parts of their body [and] leav[e] them feeling empowered. That surge of self-love a customer experiences during a boudoir session or lingerie fitting is our goal.  So how do you maintain that badass feeling? You continue to include sultry articles of clothing when designing your outfit. Regardless [of] if you wear it under a dress or as a stand-out part of your OOTD, just knowing you have it on will help you stand with more confidence and [have] a better appreciation for your body. One of my favorite quick, lingerie-inspired looks is a soft bralette tossed under an oversized sweater so the lace of the teddy shines through on your shoulders. For the perfect juxtaposition add a structured blazer over a lace teddy [or] bodysuit. The opportunities to kick up the heat with your styling [are] limitless.

—Sasha Vurnakes

Fashion has no rules! You can wear whatever makes you look good and feel good. Bustiers, corsets, [and] thigh highs ... have become mainstream in fashion and can be worn outside the bedroom.  Confidence starts from within!

—Becca Michelet

If it makes you feel Clothing Confident, GO FOR IT! I feel SUPER sexy when I go out in this … it’s shapewear AND it’s hot!

—Maddison McKinley

What should I consider when buying lingerie?

When choosing lingerie you should weigh fit, function, and cost. The cost of lingerie varies—there're very affordable pieces that you can get a handful of wears from and there are staple luxury pieces that you will want to invest in so that they last a long time … At Sasha Lee’s we try to merge the two ends of the spectrum, providing a large collection of well-made pieces at an affordable price. Most of our pieces are under $50. Another thing you will want to consider when purchasing lingerie is the fit—does it feel comfortable? Is it enhancing your shape? Is it showcasing your favorite parts of your body? There are several different styles of lingerie and some cater to certain shapes more than others. For example, if you have a larger chest, you … will want a piece that offers structure to your bust like a bustier. If you’re short, you might find a chemise hides too much of your body, but a teddy with a high-cut leg showcases your lower half more favorably. Not sure what style would be best for you? Consult an expert. At Sasha Lee’s we work with all genders, ages, and sizes to offer inclusive fittings. 

—Sasha Vurnakes

You need to determine function & cost. Higher quality garments will cost more but will need to be replaced less frequently. If you are going with a lower price point, you may need to replace your garments more often. However, with any bra, it all depends on how many you have in your rotation. Every woman should have three-five bras in their rotation if you are wearing a bra seven days a week. The heavier the bust, the more … work your bra is doing so you may need to swap them out sooner [than] someone who has a petite bust. You need to look at your bras as investments and take good care of them, so they can take better care of you. Bras are not meant to last forever, and your size can change! ... It is important you hand wash your bras but also get fitted every six months to a year to ensure you are still in the correct size.

—Becca Michelet

TOPIC: CARE AND MAINTENANCE

How do I take care of my undergarments so that they last a long time? 

HANDWASH! I know many of us these days are super busy and can’t even fathom taking the time to do laundry, let alone hand wash our undergarments, but it is super important. Most lingerie stores will carry gentle lingerie wash, such as SOAK or Ovacion. Our fitter favorite is SOAK because it’s super easy and takes no time at all! Just add a teaspoon of the solution to a gallon of cold water in your sink. Let your undergarments soak for 10-15 minutes and voila! Hang to dry, and your garments will smell nice and last much longer! If you must put your bras in the washer, it is imperative you always hook the backs of the bras, put them in a lingerie bag (shop this one on Amazon for $10) and use cold water with a wash made for delicates. Always hang to dry. Do not cook your bras in the dryer!

—Becca Michelet

Creating A Basics Wardrobe That Works for You

Article by Maddison McKinley, in collaboration with Nicole Leachman. The products featured in this article were sourced independently and chosen for the benefit of the reader. Daily Inspirato doesn’t financially benefit if you buy any of these products.

 I’ve interviewed my dear friend Nicole Leachman for this article and together we bring you a new outlook on the wardrobe “basics,” or the pieces every wardrobe would benefit from having. We take it beyond the cardigan and introduce you to new ways to think about these basics through the lens of your personal preference. In the end, you’ll walk away with an idea of what you need in your wardrobe to go from “I have nothing to wear” to “think of the combinations!”

Basics For You

It is a fundamental belief of mine that every person is capable of putting together an outfit they love, and with practice, can do it regularly. It is also true that putting together an outfit is easier when you have a collection of basics to work from, so you’re not always starting from scratch each time you create an outfit. 

With the help of my good friend, Nicole, we’re going to show you some basics that are useful for any wardrobe but are adaptable to the context of you. 

Nicole is an expert on what it means to have a timeless piece. She works in a high-end department store as a buyer for expensive clothing lines for women of a stately age (think St. John). She knows what she’s talking about when it comes to classic pieces because she caters to an audience that spends a lot of money to look classic and timeless. 

We’re going to task you with figuring out what style of basic you’d like to incorporate into your wardrobe. 

Sure, you could buy a black shirt, but will you go for a button-down, a buttonless shirt, a v-neck, or a turtle? It’s up to you.

Of course, you’re going to have denim, but what is your cut? High-waisted with a tapered leg? A nod to the 70s flare? A 90s straight cut? Or 2020 denim, aka the SPANX legging? Those are the options before we even consider denim color! 

The beauty of this exercise is that it’s the most stripped-down version of understanding your best 4Cs - Cut, Color, Cloth, and Comfort Level. Figure out the best basics for your 4C’s and you’ve just made putting together your future 100 outfit combinations so much simpler (& you’ll feel more confident). 

We’re going to show you options, variety, and most importantly, we’re going to remind you that you have to find the right style that works for your unique 4Cs (Cut, Color, Cloth, and Comfort Level).

Keep reading if you’ve been saying: 

• “I have nothing to wear.”

• “Nothing I have goes together.”

• “I feel that I’ve run out of options to wear.”

“The main reason why people say they ‘have nothing to wear’ is because they don’t have enough basics. They have prints, and statement pieces, but nothing to wear [them] with.”

Nicole’s Basics

Below, check out each basic in more detail and see the breadth of options :)

THE BASIC SHIRT: T-Shirt, Button-Down Shirt, Collared Shirt

The shirt, it’s as basic as a basic comes. I know people who buy Hane’s V-neck and pair them with the most magical outfits (high-waisted dark wash jeans and a nice duster, for example). The plain shirt is the supporting actor in any Oscar-nominated outfit.

THE BASIC TURTLENECK

A turtle can be paired with anything -– you can wear it under a blazer, under a button down, or on its own. It’s a good layering basic anyone should have at the ready.

THE BASIC LIGHTWEIGHT SWEATER/CARDIGAN

Oh the comfort. You can layer sweaters on top of turtlenecks, collared shirts, and more. What sweater will you go for? 

THE BASIC LAYERS: Jacket, Blazer, Duster

What do you see your base layer being? That is, what kind of top and pants will you choose? Then imagine how the top layer will look.

Play with the length! Do you want this layer hitting your hips, just below your butt, your knees, or your ankles? All of these different styles come in different silhouettes. I prefer lengths that end right at my waist (high), or below my booty.

THE BASIC JEANS (or WFH SPANX Leggings)

I can hear the shudder from people hearing me request that they wear a button (heaven forbid), but that’s why I quickly also offered the SPANX leggings. This is about your comfort level. Fortunately for those that aren’t afraid of a jean, jeans come in so many different shapes and sizes that will be sure to wow your body. The question is skinny, straight, boot, bellbottom? High waisted, mid waisted, low? What color wash?

THE BASIC SHOE (Plain comfy boot, classic slides, or Athletic Shoe) 

I know some of you may be vegan reading this, but if you can stomach it, go for a leather shoe. It will last a long time, and the longer you have it, the more you can condition the leather and give it a patina look. Leather can also be more easily mended in the future should you want to have the shoe worked on. If you are uninterested in contributing to the trafficking of new leather goods, consider shopping vintage leather. 

Considerations: Where are you wearing these? Do you need to consider the salt, if so, go for high quality. Consider the bottom of the shoe, do you need good grip? 

Consider the height, do you want an athletic shoe for running around and a nice, high boot for different occasions?

THE BASIC ACCESSORIES

This is where personal preference really comes into play, though it’s difficult to go wrong with a scarf design you love and some basic gold jewelry.

Basics & 4C’s

My biggest gripe about previous “basics” lists I’ve read is that they assume all people have the same figure as the people creating the list. Don’t make this mistake. Basics are only as good as they are worn and felt confident in, and to feel confident, you need to pick the ones that flatter your figure best.

Cut

• Just because the type of clothing is a “basic,” doesn’t mean it will automatically work with your specific Cut requirements. Basics come in all silhouettes, and you need to find the silhouette that’s best for your figure.

• The “Cut” is how the piece compliments, hugs, and accentuates your figure when you’re wearing it … think which jean silhouettes work best on your figure: skinny, wide leg, high waisted, etc.

• Bigger-busted women, I know the pain of a button-down. Opt for tape or an oversized version. Also, consider trading in the button-down for a classic tee. 

• Ask yourself what you want to accentuate, and look for those silhouettes.

Color

• Dark or light color? I always go black with basics because, well, coffee stains. Consider your palette, is white a better basic? How about splitting the difference and choosing a shade of gray?

• When you buy basics, try to go for neutral colors that will not tire and will go with one another. Which neutrals look best on your skin tone? Which make your skin look healthy?

• You don’t have to pick neutrals — but the point is to pick pieces that work together. You can still pick a baby blue duster, why not? But a full-on Cheetah and neon coat ... Maybe save that for a statement piece. Consider that you want these pieces to go with the rest of the pieces in your wardrobe and that’s much easier to do if they are neutrals or at least share a color palette.

Cloth

• What are your favorite cloths? Cotton? Linen? Figure that out before investing in basics.

• Cotton is my go-to, especially for pieces that lie directly on my skin. Silk fabrics are a dressier option. Avoid synthetic fabrics (polyester, rayon) that irritate or make you perspire. 

Comfort

• Do you want to show your arms? Are you more comfortable in long or short-sleeved tops?

• You may have some jeans that when you wear them, you’re silently cursing yourself for having purchased them in the first place. Consider what’s comfortable and what you will realistically wear before you commit to a piece. Also, consider what you’re comfortable showing off! I give a big “no thank you” to low rise jeans because there’s nothing comfortable about them, to me.

Maddison And Moto Not Get Along-o

I’ll give you a real Basic + 4Cs example. I love moto-leather jackets, I always have. They’re a superb, stylish layering piece, however, I know that on me, they make my upper body look like a triangle. My shoulders are much too broad to allow for a tapered waist with a bulky piece like this. 

So, instead, I opt for leather jackets that look more like blazers because they can hang open comfortably and create the lines I’d much rather see on my figure.

Trends with Basics

“Look at something and if you like it, make it work.”

Sage advice from Nicole. Don’t get so caught up with the trends. They can be fun to follow, but they’re not meant to be overthought. If you like them, try them on for size.

Trends will be easier to incorporate into your looks when you have your basics figured out. 

Here are some fun trends from Nicole:

Shacket

“It’s a casual layering piece. Sometimes I struggle with going to get a coffee or meet a friend and I don’t want to wear a full on leather jacket. The shacket is nice because I can pair it with leggings, or dress it up with jeans or a dress”

Sweatshirt + Collar or Turtle

Layer a sweatshirt with a collared shirt and or a turtleneck for that perfect Gen Z look :)

A “Trendy” Basic 

Any of the above basics silhouettes can be turned into a trendy piece just by purchasing something a little different about them. For example, check out this Free People Beach Boys Tee –– it’s a tee, but it’s more trendy than a basic white one. 

Or, buy a layering piece in a “hot” color, say a sky blue duster (MER SEA: Baby Blue Duster).

But My Age!

“Wear what makes you happiest and your most authentic self. At the end of the day, it’s just clothes, it doesn’t matter what’s age-appropriate.” 

Thank you, Nicole, I couldn’t agree more. If you’re so caught up wondering if what you’re wearing is age-appropriate or not, you’re not asking the important question — do I like this on me? That’s really all that matters!

Basics and Sustainability

Nicole is passionate about sustainability, particularly given that she works in an industry that has a bad reputation when it comes to looking after the environment. 

“Eight to 10 percent of global greenhouse gas emissions comes from the fashion industry, which is more than the aviation and maritime shipping industries combined.” — Source: vox.com

Nicole likes working in the high-end space of fashion, as opposed to a typical fast fashion company because her company focuses on selling high quality pieces. At Nicole’s company, women buy a few outfits a year, which they keep for years to come. They invest in their clothing, thereby investing in reducing the number of garments thrown into the landfill each year.

Sustainability means being picky with the pieces you do buy. It means you have a discerning eye to pick out the pieces that will last the longest (materials and style). This is why having basics that work for your figure and for the months and years to come is the sustainable choice.

Nicole’s not recommending that you have to shop at a high end store to be sustainable, but that you consider your options at any price point.

“Garments with mostly cotton, wool, cashmere … or natural fibers, will last longer and are better for the environment. I’ve had some pieces from Forever 21 that have lasted 10+ years. Thrifting is also a great alternative to buying at expensive high end stores.'“

There are OPTIONS. 

You can thrift these pieces, buy them second hand, or go through your mom’s closet.

“Investment” isn’t synonymous with “expensive,” and thrift and second-hand stores demonstrate that. 

A big thank you to Nicole for collaborating with me on this article! I hope y’all enjoyed it.

How to Build a Chic Capsule Wardrobe For Less than $100

Article by Maddison McKinley. The products featured in this article were sourced independently and chosen for the benefit of the reader. Daily Inspirato doesn’t financially benefit if you buy any of these products.

P.S. I recorded a podcast episode (a quick one, 10 mins!) about how to achieve a Summer 2021 Capsule Wardrobe!

A Capsule Wardrobe Is Your Answer to Looking Chic Post-COVID

The post-COVID world is here and vibes are UP.

With the resurgence of weddings, evenings on the town with friends, date nights, concerts, and birthday parties, it’s time to fuel that Clothing Confidence and rediscover our personal style in this post-pandemic world.

While COVID caused a boom in athleisure (which is likely here to stay), it doesn’t mean you should sport workout clothing out with friends in the coming months.

Sweatpants may have made sense when the world didn’t, but it’s time to wear things that make us feel confident again.

But what to wear? Maybe you’ve gained weight and your clothing isn’t fitting quite right, or your personal comfort preferences have changed due to COVID (“never show me a button on a pair of pants again”). Or maybe you’ve started a new job and will be going back into the office soon, but don’t have the business casual wear you’re searching for.

For these reasons, I recommend experimenting with a Capsule Wardrobe.

What is a Capsule Wardrobe? 

A Capsule Wardrobe is a trimmed-down closet containing a few core pieces (somewhere between 10 - 20), that all work together and are so classic most move effortlessly with you from season to season. The secret to a good Capsule Wardrobe is buying pieces that work with your other pieces and using accessories consistently (hats, jewelry, scarves, etc.). 

Capsule Wardrobes are small by definition, meaning you don’t have to spend a lot to create a solid wardrobe. Plus, if your clothing isn’t fitting and you need a transitional wardrobe until you get back to your pre-pandemic size, a small capsule is just the thing to float you there, while maintaining your personal style (and confidence). 

Capsule Wardrobes are also fun ways to try out a new style. Perhaps you’re wanting to redefine your personal style entirely? Try out a Capsule Wardrobe that borrows notes from that particular theme.

Can I have a Capsule Wardrobe within my wardrobe?

Yes! You can have many pieces in your closet, but a set number of them create a Capsule Wardrobe, say for work. I have a Work Capsule and a Day-to-Day Capsule, and the two tend to share pieces (e.g. SPANX leggings).

What is the point of a Capsule Wardrobe?

A Capsule Wardrobe makes your life easier by allowing you to see all of your pieces easily and not get overwhelmed by a huge closet. Capsule wardrobes allow you to get dressed more efficiently because you learn which combos work well for which occasions, taking some of the guesswork out of dressing! 

The “I Have Nothing to Wear” Saga

We’ve all said it before. We have nothing in our closets to wear. We’re sick of looking at the same things over and over again.

“If only I had an unlimited budget, I’d have the best style.”

 ^ Heard that one before? Repeat after me: money doesn’t buy style.

You don’t need an unlimited budget, you need a Capsule Wardrobe.

In today’s article, I’m showing you my rendition of a Capsule Wardrobe. I’ve thrifted 7 pieces, and used 2 pieces of clothing I already owned, to create 9 different looks (and I could have created more!). 

The 7 thrifted pieces are amazing and only cost me $70 total (that’s $10/item!). 

You don’t have to love the inside of a Goodwill to create a Capsule Wardrobe on a budget. Stores Target are carrying brands famous for their simplicity and versatility… just take this Universal Thread dress for example: 

An Example Capsule Wardrobe

What is the checklist for a Capsule Wardrobe?

Every Capsule Wardrobe consists of a few great pairs of shoes, core clothing basics, and many accessories. There isn’t a shoe and core basics Capsule Wardrobe checklist that will work for everyone because different factors like personal preference and weather will alter what each of us picks. An example checklist for a Capsule Wardrobe clothing basics could be: An open sweater, a baby doll dress, a sweater top, a leather jacket, a men’s tuxedo jacket, a white tuxedo shirt, a black button-down shirt, jean shorts, and thick leggings. For shoes, some good athletic/multi-use tennis shoes and a pair of leather booties will work with nearly every combination mentioned in the list of core clothing basics above.

How does weather impact my Capsule Wardrobe?

Depending on where you live, the seasonality of a region can dictate how many Capsule Wardrobes you have. If you live in the South, you may just need two Capsule Wardrobes (Summer and Winter). However, if you live in the Northeast, perhaps you’ll need 3 (Summer, Fall/Spring, and Winter).  

I bought 7 out of the 9 core pieces of the Capsule Wardrobe below for $70, all in one trip to Goodwill. The other two items I already owned, along with the shoes and accessories (notice, though, there are only 2 pairs of shoes!).

The Pieces

1. 1980s Black & White Sweater

2. Grey One Piece Workout Suit

3. Blue and White Baby Doll Dress

4. 1980s Cream Sweater

5. Leather Suede Jacket with Fringe

6. Men’s Tuxedo Jacket

7. Champion Grey Sweater

8. ALREADY HAD: Men’s White Tuxedo Shirt

9. ALREADY HAD: Mens’ Jeans (Made into shorts)

Men’s Section

If you haven’t ventured into the men’s section recently, I have to tell you: it’s where I buy some of my favorite pieces.

The white tux button-down? That’s straight from the Dillards men’s section.

The tux jacket? Men’s section in Goodwill.

The jorts? Men’s Levi’s, cut, by way of Goodwill.

Using What You Already Own

Accessories

While I may only be wearing 9 pieces of clothing interchangeably, the real MVP of these looks are the accessories.

The hats, the belts, the jewelry, scarves, the tights… the list goes on. Accessories make our looks feel fresh. Accessories maximize a look’s shelflife.

Hair & Makeup

Wearing your hair differently (up, down, in buns, etc.) is a really quick way to look completely different. Plus, you wouldn’t believe the impact a different lip color will have!

Unthinkable Combinations

If you showed me 9 different pieces of clothing and asked me to create 9 looks, I would have probably been able to come up with 3.

But when I told myself “each basic piece needs 3 looks”, I accepted the challenge.

I would have NEVER put a sweatshirt with a men’s tuxedo shirt, ever. Jorts and a men’s tuxedo jacket? No way. A short sleeved baby doll dress and WHAT?

I had to touch the pieces, try out different accessories, get into that play space that makes clothing fun. And it happens by doing it. By challenging ourselves.

More Capsule Wardrobe Examples

[The Complete guide] How to Look Your Best in Photos

Article by Maddison McKinley. The products featured in this article were sourced independently and chosen for the benefit of the reader. Daily Inspirato doesn’t financially benefit if you buy any of these products.

Preface: I recently asked the @DailyInspirato followers what they most wanted me to write about and “how to look good in pictures” was one of the top requests. Is there an area of Clothing Confidence you want to know more about? Email me or DM me on Instagram.

We All Want to Look Good

We all want to look good in the pictures our beautiful faces are featured in. 

And photos are important. Not only do they capture a memory that Facebook will remind you of in a year or two, but they are also what grandma sticks on the mantle for posterity. They are what your potential employer might see when they Google Image search your name. They are what you will show your grandkids to prove you really were young once. 

Whether it’s for a school print, a Google Meet screenshot, an engagement photo, a family gathering we want to remember, or a selfie with friends, we want the outcome to be “oh, I look good.” 

In some of these cases, you will have a photographer coaching you along the way: “tilt your chin up a bit … there!” In others, your aunt is giving you three seconds to pose before your nephew begins sobbing.

In cases like the latter, we only get a few shots to choose from, so we have to make them count.

I’ve partnered up with Jessica Webb of Jessica Webb Photography in Portland, Maine to talk through some quick tips you can mentally check off right before you take a photo.

Tips to Remember Before The Flash Fires

• Skin

• Posture

• Smile or Smirk

• 4Cs

Skin!

Makeup

Ladies, I recommend wearing makeup as it’s helpful for skin color correction. No matter how religious we are with our skincare routine, our cheeks and forehead don’t always look even in color. Makeup is there to make that flawless face. And the little things, like a bright lip, show up beautifully in photos. The bottom line: when you wear makeup, you’re helping the camera define your features.

If makeup feels like a big question mark, watch this makeup video I created using simple products and a simple process.

If you’re a hard pass on makeup at all, consider at least amping up your lips.

Moisturize!

Make sure your skin is moisturized (face, lips, and other exposed skin). It’s the cheapest, easiest, thing you can do to improve your face for photos

Moisturizing Process

My best tip for making sure my skin looks fabulous during a shoot is to moisturize the living daylights out of my skin the night before. 

Here’s my process (see the accompanying products below).

The night before I...

• Remove all makeup very well using this Neutrogena Oil-Free Makeup Remover.

• Take a shower using La Roche-Posay Facial Cleanser.

• Lotion my fulllllll body using Aveeno’s Daily Moisturizing Lotion.

• Apply a heavy layer of La Roche-Posay face lotion, and lip balm.

After this routine, my skin looks and feels dewy and smooth the next day. When I go to apply makeup (after cleansing off the lotion from the night before, of course), my skin is positively radiant.

I’m not a skin expert, so while I’m sharing these products, know that you’ll need to find the best ones that work for your unique skin. Consider seeing a dermatologist for a consultation, especially if you have problem or sensitive skin. 

I have been in love with La Roche-Posay ever since I found their lip balm on a trip. Upon using their product, I realized that I’d never had a moisturizer that actually moisturized as well as these products. I won’t be smelling like a pomegranate that just walked out of Bath and Body Works, but my skin will feel amazing for a lot longer.

Posture!

According to the American Chiropractic Association, posture is “the position in which someone holds their body when standing or sitting.”

We interpret about 65% of a person’s messaging through their nonverbal communication. Things like gesture, facial expression, and yes, posture help us communicate, and photos are no exception. You’re capturing your posture in a photo and making it permanent, so you want to make sure you’re conveying what you wish to convey!

If your shoulders are slumped, we’ll think you feel defeated or tired or even sloppy. If you’re standing up tall, we’ll read you as confident.

The saying, “a picture is worth a thousand words” is a widely known phrase for a reason. Through a photo, we can relate an entire story.

For example, with the photo above, there’s a certain mischievousness about my posture: I am standing straight, my body completely facing the camera, one hand on my hip, wearing a large smirk, and a tilt in my head while staring at the camera.

“Look what I found...”

“Just wait until you see…”

“Yeah, not so smart are ya…”

And just with a few changes, I can then go into a much softer pose, like the one below:

Here, I’ve crossed my arms (a defensive posture), knocked my hip back, am wearing a soft smile, and am stepping more towards the camera. I appear much more open and perhaps even shy than the previous photo.

Our posture is key!

Shoulders, Neck, and Back 

Stand as tall as you think you can, and you’ll surprise yourself with how much more confident and fantastic you look. 

… this includes your shoulders and your neck. 

Many of us think we’re standing up straight, but we collapse into our bodies more than we think (and those darn iPhones aren’t making anything easier). 

Push those shoulders back, lengthen your neck, and stand your back up as straight as you can. 

Do you feel the difference? It may feel strange at first, but you’ll get used to it! (And maybe even adopt it?)

Face and Chin

Avoid pointing your chin upwards too dramatically as you won’t want to have your nostrils on full display. Play around with different face and chin positions, but don’t lean your face back or forward too much. 

In the photo above, notice my chin/face are facing off to the side, but my chin is still facing the camera at about camera height.

I can hear someone out there saying “but what about my double chin?” Instead of leaning forward, try to make your neck feel as long as you can and see which kind of smile makes you feel most comfortable and shows off your neck best. I find that if I smile too big, my triple chins come out to say hello very quickly, hece my adoption of the smize.

But What Do I Do With My Hands?

Here, my hands are going through my hair, resting on my hip and on my leg, or in a pocket.

Cecily used the prop of a staircase handle like an expert, while I leaned on the gas station pump.

Fernanda crosses her arms high, and low, both creating an elegant silhouette with her body.

Now that you’re standing up straight, you may think, “but I look stiff”. 

The most stark indication of our stiffness will most surely become present in our hands.

Not to worry, the opportunities for what to do with our critical appendages are endless.

• On the hips (with an arm pop)

• Laid in lap (if sitting)

• All your fingers in your pocket (don’t do a finger in/finger out)

• Comb or touch your hair

• If you have a prop close by, try to organically work with it. (See the gas station pump?)

• Cross your arms. Be mindful that you don’t want to come off as “angry” with this one. See how Fernanda gingerly places her fingers over her arms? She looks more “queen” and less “intimidator.”

Carrie & Sheila moving beautifully

Jess recommends movement in photos because it’ll help you feel more natural. If you can walk towards the camera, move around in one place, you’ll likely flow into a place where your hands feel natural. If you’re in a family photo, you can wrap your hands around someone else.

Legs

I often like photos where one leg is more in front of the other and in line with the other leg, with hips popped. Or, the ones where I pop a leg out front, because while my posture is straight, it makes the lower half of my body look smaller (which I prefer).

If You’re Sitting

The ladies behind Seeking Inspriato series do this so effortlessly (and with a little of Jess’s help 😉). 

See how they cross their legs? They look so elegant and comfortable. Billie balances her hand on a nearby chair, with the other holding her knee. Elise crosses her legs behind her, gripping a mug (perfect prop), and rests a hand on her thigh.

Here are some more sitting options, and these are a little more laid back. This viewpoint with Chanda is fun because she looks totally in her environment, like you’re sharing a pizza with her while watching The Bachelor. Chanel looks cool and confident.

To Smile or to Smirk?

Sometimes Jess will ask the people she’s photographing to, 

This will usually make people laugh, which also creates a great photo. 

Do you like your smirk, or your full smile, in photos? I like a good smize myself, but a big bright smile is timeless.

When in doubt, the “sorority smile” always works and does make for a great photo (look into the distance and think of something funny). Kathryn does this beautifully in the pink photo above.

Cut, Color, Cloth, and Comfort

You know we have to talk about the 4Cs. Not only are they the Daily Inspirato trademark, but they are also critical to taking a good photo!

The clothing and accessories you chose to wear in a photo can either make or break your appearance. We want the cuts to complement your figure, the colors to make your skin pop, the cloth to feel good on you (and be camera-appropriate), and for you to feel comfortable so you can be as natural as possible.

Let’s go through each of the 4Cs and ask ourselves some key questions to prepare for our next photo op!

Cut

• Which Cuts flatter my face shape best? 

• Which Cut is appropriate for this photo? 

• How much chest do I want to show? Legs? 

Thankfully, there are a few neckline Cuts that work for just about everyone.

Necklines for Everyone

The 5 options below will work flawlessly on anyone.

You’ll have to determine for yourself if you want to wear long or short sleeves, where you want the waist to cut (an a-line, empire, or wrap are flattering on nearly everyone), how long you want the dress to be, and if you want it to be form fitted or not.

When it comes to photos, we want to see your silhouette, so don’t go running to a bean sack! Define your figure in the best Cut for you.

Color

Jess recommends choosing neutrals like gray, or soft blues for cool skin tones. “Burnt tones” always look great in photos and are especially recommended if you have a warm skin tone. 

It’s probably smart to just stay away from patterns. 

Remember that your photos freeze you in a moment in time and travel with you to the future. Not all patterns create the timeless quality you’ll want in some photos, but there are timeless patterns to consider (think houndstooth). In photos though, patterns can be distracting. They’ll cause viewers to focus on discerning whether that is a leopard or cheetah print instead of focusing on your face. 

Cloth

Avoid shiny textiles as flashes can add complexity to the photos. 

Go with the Cloth you most prefer! I like organic fabrics as they feel best on my skin, but also like when synthetics are tossed in (cotton + spandex).

Comfort

This is the most personal part of the process. What are you uncomfortable exposing? What do you want to show off? (Aside from your face, we all have something else worth showing off!) Maybe you have killer legs –– please do the world a favor and wear something that shows them off!

I always wear long sleeved shirts in pictures because I don’t like exposing my arms. I know this, and specifically plan for it when I can (and when it’s not 98° outside).

What I’d Wear Based On My 4Cs

Based on my 4Cs, below are a few dresses that would be the safest bets for how I’d want to show up in pictures. 

Cut: The V necks are my personal favorite, but I’d choose the high neck for family photos as I have a larger chest and don’t love camisoles (though they’re a great option for most people).

Color: I love green, navy, and black. They’re good low-key colors for photos.

Cloth: The dresses are made from cotton, rayon, or spandex … a few of my favorite textiles.

Comfort: With these options, I’m concealing my arms and legs. With the shorter dress, I’d wear nylons.

Great Dresses to Wear for Photos

Of course, I’d accessorize, accessorize, and accessorize with statement earrings, hair pieces, and belts. 

I’d pull my hair back with some bobby pins, wear the statement stud below, and don the belt with any of the above dresses!

Fun Accessories for Your Next Photo Op

What if I’m pregnant?

All the same principles apply (think moisture, posture, smirk/smile, and 4Cs) but for posture, make sure to hold your belly — no matter the size. (Unless, of course, you’re too early to be sharing the news.)

Jess recommends form fitting pieces, in black, to create a pretty silhouette for your baby bump.

Time to Practice

Please don’t just read these tips and think, “Ok, I’m ready for Thanksgiving!”

I strongly recommend getting comfortable with a few poses. Think about your circumstances: will you be posing with other people? Sitting? This will help you prepare.

Either pose in a full length mirror, or if you don’t have one, get out your phone, flip it to selfie mode, prop it on something at about your eye height (or the height that someone taking a photo would be at) and start posing. 

Begin playing around with different poses. Try moving around to find what’s natural. Do a full smile, a smirk, tilt your head, feel confident in your posture, try moving your hands around until you find what’s comfortable.

When I “model” (loose term) for Collection36, it’s just me taking the photos, one at a time. I’ve had to practice and practice until I’ve felt comfortable, and the same will go for you. 

Take some photos of yourself to figure out how you like to hold your body! To get the full effect, use the timer function on your phone or download the Snapi App, which allows you to signal to your camera when you’re read to snap a photo!

And remember, be natural and have fun :) If nothing else, you want your personality to shine.

How to dress your body shape

A woman’s resource to understanding her body shape and how to dress it with confidence.

2 minute read | By Maddison McKinley

This resource is designed to answer the following questions:

• “What is my body shape?”

• “What flatters my body shape best?”

• “How to dress a plus size body shape?”

Know your body, dress it how you want

Understanding your body shape can be enlightening.

There are “dos” and “do nots” that can be followed once you have identified your body shape that can serve as a sherpa when you have lost all direction and hope in clothing.

Of the women I’ve spoken with, the ones who understood their body shapes can more accurately and quickly find pieces they know will work for them because they have developed an eye for finding pieces that flatter their figures.

The #1 quote I heard from women I’ve interviewed about clothing:

Disclaimer

All bodies are different. It’s what makes us, us.

You know your body best and can dress it however you please.

The information here are documented best practices for each shape. If you have a suggestion on the information provided here, please let me know.

✅ The rectangle wears

• Straight silhouettes with fitted components

• Fitted tops and bottoms to accent slight curves.

• Column dresses

✅The hourglass wears

• All things that accentuate the waist (high waisted pants, etc.)

• Fitted silhouettes (jackets/blazers)

• Dark denim

How to get rid of clothing

A resource with information on how to donate, or consign, your used clothing to help those in need, or make a little money of your pieces.

2 minute read | By Maddison McKinley

This resource is designed to answer the following questions:

• How can I make money off of clothing I want to get rid of?

• Where can I donate clothing?

Purging items from your wardrobe and need to know where to put them? You’ve come to the right place.

How to get rid of clothing for money

• Drop off and forget about it!

  • ThreadUp: An online second hand store selling items ranging from Marc Jacobs handbags to Old Navy dresses.  They make the process of sending in your clothing easy and stress free.

• Drop it off - let someone else do the work

  • Local Consignment shops: Trusty Google will show you the local consignment shops in your area on Google Maps. Contact these shops to see when they’re buying days are, and what kinds of clothing they accept (or check their sites).

With some elbow grease…

• Vintage - Etsy.com - list vintage items (older than 20 years) on Etsy and make some money!

• New or Vintage - Ebay.com - Ebay allows you to sell new and vintage clothing.

• Poshmark: An app-based marketplace that allows you to easy snap photos of your clothing and sell to people whose style you adore.

How to donate clothing to those who need it most

Check to see if you have any of these outlets near you. They are typically accepting donations at all times and make getting rid of clothing you no longer need, easy.

• St. Vincent De Paul

• Goodwill

• Salvation Army

• Local shelters / charities accepting donations

Daily Inspirato Definitions

The following definitions were created by Daily Inspirato to support the Clothing Confidence Methodology.

Clothing Confidence

Clothing Confidence is a term coined by Daily Inspirato that signifies the feeling she experiences when her clothing matches the way she wants to appear in the world. Her confidence radiates through her clothing and her body language. Her clothing is an expression of the self-acceptance she embodies.

Personal Style

Personal Style is composed of three elements: 1) knowing how to dress your body (4 C’s), 2) expressing vulnerability, and 3) resiliency. Women with Personal Style aren’t afraid to express themselves through clothing and ultimately care how clothing impacts the way they show up in the world.

> Read more about Personal Style in Series II

The 4C’s

The 4C’s consist of 1) cloth, 2) color, 3) cut, 4) comfort. These are the essential elements in crafting a successful outfit.

> Read more about the 4C’s in Series I

Continuously Curate

You’re able to identify pieces that are, and are not, working for you in the moment (e.g. you put something on that find that it’s not serving you anymore so you put it in a box and intend to get rid of it). This is the cornerstone of the Refined Closet Cycle.

Creative Closet Space

When you open your closet in the morning, you are inspired. You are able to pick out an outfit that you like quickly. This is due to having a closet that is well organized (color, style), and enough space between hangers that allows you to see the closet (nothing in drawers).

Refined Closet Cycle

Maintaining a Refined Closet is founded on the following cycle: 1) consistently curate, 2) organize, 3) dedicate time to choosing outfits, 4) inspiration, and 5) notes.

> Read more about the Refined Closet Cycle in Series III

Mindful Shopping Cycle

Mindful Shopping is founded on the following cycle: 1) have a plan, 2) spend time with piece before buying, 3) think about your wardrobe, and 4) look at cost last.

> Read more about the Mindful Shopping Cycle in Series IV

Hanger Value

a hanger isn’t just a $1 item; it’s much more. A hanger is a valuable asset that takes space in your closet (sacred), could ignite an emotional response depending on what’s hanging from it, and ultimately adds time to your process because it presents yet another item for you to look over.

Mind, Mirror, Reality [theory]

This theory was developed through the Daily Inspirato research. The theory states that for some women there is a disconnect between three elements: the mind, a mirror, and reality. The mind sees one thing, the mirror another, and reality is the most truthful of all three. Our minds are so powerful that they can impact what we see in the mirror, and it’s only until reality comes into play (through a photo, or comment) that we realize the disconnect.